There is a lot of information available to parents in this day and age. The problem is who do you trust to help you make those important decisions about parenting? Some of the information out available even contradicts what another ‘expert’ suggested.
I am excited to bring to you some of the most universal parenting tips. These parenting tips are embraced by many experts. There are some things about parenting that can be held as true in respect to parenting, no matter what your personal parenting style.
Parenting Tip #1: Love your children. ‘Of course I love my child’ is what you are thinking, right? We know that we love our children but as the day to day chaos of life takes over sometimes we forget to take the time to tell them. So seize the moment, any moment and tell them you love them.
Parenting Tip #2: Tell your child why they are unique and special to you. Giving children self confidence is one of the most important things we can give our children. A child with good self confidence can go out into the world and make good life decisions. It is important to help them trust in themselves. By arming our children with self confidence we can be confident that they are problem solvers and when a situation needs reflection they will trust their own instincts.
Parenting Tip #3: Model for your children by being the type of person you would like them to become. Children learn best by example, so be the best example you can be. When we just preach and don’t practice what we preach, we send a mixed message. It’s okay to show your children your emotions and frustrations. No parent is without ups and downs. You can use the moments to teach your children how to deal with the ups and downs. Show them that while your may get angry or sad there is a good and a bad way to deal with these emotions. Show them the outlets you use to help you move past the strong feelings and deal with the problem that is bothering you.
Parenting Tip # 4: Don’t label. Using labels for your children such as ‘good boy’ and ‘bad boy’ can really sting deep. When a parent says, you are being a bad boy that makes the child as a whole feel bad, and parents don’t want that. What we want is to change the behavior so it doesn’t occur again. This is best done by separating the behavior from the child. When a child chooses to behave in a way that you call “bad” instead of telling them that was bad tell them why the behavior they choose was wrong. The truth is the choice they made was bad not the child. So next time this occurs watch your wording.
By Anna Bignon, Early Childhood Educator