FAQ on Money and Relationship

men together at folsom street fair : san francisco (2012)
THERE GOES THE FEAR — doves

the power and mystery of sex is something humans seem to constantly need to come to terms with in each time period and epoch.

after all this time on earth as a species, we still continue this process of sexual infighting — banning and vilifying the choices of others.

in our epoch we have the power to nullify the social harm caused by rejection and fearfulness of the great human span of sexuality.

as much as our species is filled with genius and talent, we all know in our hearts that we are not everybody and never can be/become the ALL of us. but we still yearn to bridge that separation between the "who we are as individuals" to the state or condition we refer to humanity. we love our humanity, our precious little piece of it forged out by our experiences and our loves and losses, our secret fantasies and what we never share with anyone besides ourselves.

and this is our unique humanity. but we also yearn and long so desperately for the "all of us", the true width and breadth of our nature, our colors, our ethnicities, our cultures, our solutions, our imaginations, our absolute hugeness in a universe than is infinitely bigger than us, surrounding us and bringing us together where we find ourselves in each moment.

for me, humanity is music and voice, it’s ambitious and likes struggling more than resting or meditating. it prefers entanglements and relationships and secrets and half-lies parading as truth.

still, we are now being beckoned into a different realm for latitudes and margins.

for the past 10 years, gay marriage has been replacing abortion and illegal immigration rights in the media’s TOPICAL slur game against the u.s. people.

as a homosexual male who thinks ALL marriage is an archaic institution — a thousand times worse than any gay agenda for oppressing young people — i’m just gonna speak up and ask americans to be realistic.

if you’re not going to overthrow your oppressors, you’ll end up living in ghettos like so many homosexuals who have come out in this country.

it’s lame to use a minority group to push political agendas, but i’m glad people aren’t still blowing up abortion clinics.

Out of here
We’re out of here
Out of heartache
Along with fear
There goes the fear again
There goes the fear

And cars speed fast
Out of here
And life goes past
Again so near
There goes the fear again
There goes the fear

Close your brown eyes
And lay down next to me
Close your eyes, lay down
‘Cos there goes the fear
Let it go

You turn around and love’s passed you by
You look to ones you love
To ask them why ?
You look to those you love
To justify
You turned around and life’s
Passed you by
Passed you by, again

And late last night
Makes up her mind
Another fight
Left behind
There goes the fear again, let it go
There goes the fear

Close your brown eyes
And lay down next to me
Close your eyes, lay down
‘Cos there goes the fear
Let it go

You turn around and life’s passed you by
You look to ones you love
To ask ’em why ?
You look to those you love
To justify
You turned around and life’s
Passed you by
Oh Think of me when you’re coming down
But don’t look back when leaving town
Think of me when he’s calling out
But don’t look back when leaving town yeah!

Think of me when you close your eyes
But don’t look back when you break all ties YEAH!
Think of me when you’re coming down
But don’t look back when leaving town today

There goes the fear again, let it go
There goes the fear, let it go

[space guitar solo]

Oh Think of me when you close your eyes
But don’t look back when you break all ties YEAH!
Think of me when you’re coming down
But don’t look back when leaving town today

By torbakhopper on 2012-09-23 16:28:54
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This article will provide you frequent asked questions on money and the relationship. You would know how to handle and solve the issues regarding to these headache ones.

 

 

Q: I love my boyfriend and he is always a good companion. He is an easygoing man in my eyes, while you may consider him as a lazy man. But I really admire his easygoing. What makes I feel uncomfortable is about our finance, I mean, when it comes to our finance, it seems that he is lacking of boldness.

  Most of our income is earned by me. And he always thinks that income is “our” income; we should share it and on the major purchase we should ask each other for approval. I don’t think it is reasonable. To be honest, I think it is unfair for this kind of sharing is always to giving my money to him. Additionally, recently his employers cut his hours for the economic reasons. He says he is hunting for extra work, but I realize he doesn’t try to best to look. He even can’t cover half of his bills.

  As I said before, he is a charming partner to me, and I really want to stay with him. But this is really a problem. I want to find out the way to solve this problem. Should I just accept this situation or should we separate our finance so that he would realize his income is totally deficient. Am I unreasonable to think in this way?

 

A: I am afraid that, in my opinion, you are a little bit unreasonable if you really want this man to be your life-time partner, while he is not the one who can earn enough money to meet your expectation. You have to recognize that it is quite common for couples to share their incomes when a disparity of their incomes exists. If he only makes 30 percent of that you earn, it is unfair for him to pay 50 percent of your expenditure. Accept him as he is, or don’t stay with him and find another man who is more suited for you.

 

Q: My wife and I often go to our favorite bistro to have a drink. It is quite acceptable for us to pay the $ 15 corkage fee. However, when it comes to checking out, we don’t think it is necessary for us to pay for any corkage fee or any applicable taxes in our tip calculations. These two amounts have nothing to do with the server’s performance.

 

A: The corkage fee will never go into the pocket of the server but the bistro. You have used the bistro’s glasses, ice buckets, etc, not to mention the service of the staffs that pour the wine for you and always keep an attention on whether you need another glass of wine.

 

Q: Your response to “Kansas Bride”, whose husband is always trying to touch her breast, even in public almost makes me laugh. You said he is a case of hypogenesis in some aspects and he needs to outgrow it in time.

Well, I am 60 years old, having married for more than 40 years, but I still like to touch my wife’s breast whether in public or at home. My wife is a nurse, and the men in the nursing home where she works also like to touch women inappropriately.

Sorry to say that, but in my eyes, he is not going to outgrow it.

 

A: Thanks. A mature man should be able to control his own actions, so that he won’t touch his wife inappropriately in public. What we mean is that a man’s sexual conception is not as important as what he does about it. No matter what he is thinking in his mind, we hope he can learn about how to treat his wife with more respect.

 

 

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