Learn to Live On
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What is the most popular element between boxing, wrestling and karate? At the end of the game, they leave players suffering with some extreme pain. The body pain can heal fast, but the mental pain due to the prospect of losing and disappointing themselves as well as their supporters still lasts. Similarly, when you give up your love, you also suffer pain. You stop eating, you stop being a part of gatherings, and you stop smiling…But did you ever see the players that run ways from the fears or feeling pain? Yes. This doesn’t mean that they don’t feel anything at all. Instead, the loss gives us a new driving force to make them harder and achieve more in the future. So, Learn to live on.
Our bodies are empty pots and we are the ones who teach it to function in any particular manner. It is you who teaches yourself to bear the pain or let it overwhelm you. It is you who teaches yourself to cry (or grieve) when in pain. Get the point? You are responsible for your own behavior and you have got full control on your behavior.
Similarly, you teach yourself to give up once you lose your love. You stop eating, you stop being a part of gatherings, and you stop smiling just because a girl left you. Meanwhile, that girl is busy enjoying her life with someone else.
Did you ever try to find out why things did not work out? Ever tried to jot down those reasons? If no, then you are bound to loose over and over again, and the unfortunate bonus is that the pain will always remain an integral part of your life. (We have discussed this in earlier articles of ours and we will throw more light on it later on too.)
For now, make a note of one thing: pain is nothing. You lost, and you started grieving just because you wanted to. But why? If the relationship didn’t work out then that just means there is someone else out there to understand you, and be a better partner for you than the one who left you. Remember that the world will remain with you until you keep smiling, but once that smile turns upside down you might be left very lonely. So analyze your mistakes (not understanding her is also a mistake) and gear up for the next match.
Once you learn to overcome your fear of loosing, and therefore feeling pain, believe me, you won’t be afraid of loosing her anymore. This way, you will start focusing on how to make her happy instead of holding on to her tight (just because you are afraid of the pain which you feel IF you loose her.)
In the end, it is all about making her feel more comfortable, and by succeeding in that you just minimized your chances of making her run away from you. Stop thinking about loss, pain, and their consequences, and start thinking about yourself and your future. Remember, you can either sit back and succumb to adversity, or you can stand up and fight back.
