Want Cary Grant’s Secret To Romance?


Cary Grant, one of Hollywood’s all-time most popular and romantic leading men, had a secret. It is a secret that we could all benefit from, especially our present Hollywood stars, as well as the men in our own lives.

The name Cary Grant, then and today, is synonymous with elegance, charm, good looks, desirability, grace, style, and, of course, romance. There was nothing about Cary that didn’t ooze with perfection – his movements, his speech, his gestures. He was subtle and delicious whether he was carrying a gun or a beautiful damsel. His leading ladies may have brought out the best in him, but more likely, it was he that brought out the best in them. There was Grace Kelly, Deborah Kerr, Ingrid Bergman, Katharine Hepburn, Eva Marie Saint, Sophia Loren, Gina Lollobridgida, Leslie Caron, Mae West, and many more.

These were the stars of the 40’s and 50’s, but Cary’s romantic aura is timeless. As is his secret.

I grew up in those times and as all young girls do, I fell in love with movie heart throbs of which Cary Grant was the ultimate. Then one day while watching the film, NORTH BY NORTHWEST, an Alfred Hitchcock thriller starring Cary, I found myself in the arms of this great lover. Actually, I was in his hands. As I watched the movie, during a scene in which Cary jumped into a taxi and held up a newspaper, I found that my picture was on the back of the newspaper! I was beside myself. Cary Grant and me!

How it came about is that I was playing tennis in a big championship held in South Orange, New Jersey and had been playing against Althea Gibson in the finals. The picture in the paper was from that match.

My film debut lasted about a half a second, but Cary’s secret is without time limits. Through the years I have had a special affinity for Cary, no doubt due my being one of his co-stars. I have read articles about him and seen interviews with him on television. In this mass of information his secret is revealed.

It seems that Cary, originally named Archibald Leach, was born into a rather low-class, cockney family in England. He was born on the wrong side of the tracks with the wrong accent. But as he developed his skills at entertaining, he also developed his skills at manifesting.

Now here it is: his great secret! When asked how he became the dashingly debonair Cary Grant, starting as he had from such lowly circumstances. He answered, “I pretended to be what I wanted to be, until I became it!” What a man!

“I pretended…,” he said. As most of us know by now, our loyal and efficient subconscious cannot discern the real from the imagined and it obediently fulfills our imaginings. It is very effective as Cary proved. He became the most elegantly romantic man in history with his self-created man-of-the-world persona. An interviewer once announced to him, “Everybody would like to be Cary Grant.” He is said to have replied, “So would I!”

Now we can take this secret of his a step further into our own lives and apply the Cary Grant phenomenon to love. One of the greatest secrets to falling in love is being in love. Not just being in love after you fall in love, but being in love first. And, if you don’t know how to do this, think of Cary and pretend. You can’t imagine what wonderful happenings will happen to your love life when you put yourself in the atmosphere of love.

Good luck! And, do not try to follow my film career as I retired shortly after my film with Cary. No Academy Award for me.

Copyright 2009 Sally Huss

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